Mindset, lifestyle and fitness coach Blake Worrall-Thompson certainly knows a thing or two about getting the most our of ourselves. A life dedicated to understanding our behaviours and how we can change them has seen Blake become pretty well versed in goal setting and shedding ourselves of unwanted habits.
No doubt we're all feeling like we're ready to clean our slates for the new year, so I chatted to Blake about how we can approach it and enter the new year with a new (healthier!) mindset.
Tell us a bit about yourself. What drew you to life and mindset coaching and how did you find yourself in this career?
I spent 16 years as a personal trainer and as I did more and more work on myself I found myself wanting to have a more significant impact on people than what I could achieve through nutrition and training alone. It was only in the last two years of my career as a PT that I really started to have more of an interest in people’s wellbeing, happiness, fulfilment, mental health, and mindset. With that becoming clear, I transitioned out of the fitness space and have not found myself in the coaching space.
Do you have a philosophy that you live by?
Great question - and to be honest it's ever-evolving with the more work I do! At the moment for me, it’s really about challenging the status quo. Going to whatever lengths needed to find one’s truest passion, purpose and mission, and do the work to understand yourself on the deepest of levels so you can then bring your best self to the world and have the largest and most positive impact.
In your line of work, what have you learned about human behaviour? How can goal setting change negative patterns?
Human behaviour - the million-dollar question! We really are fascinating and I think we’re only just beginning to really understand the power of the brain and what it is capable of.
What we know is that 95% of what we do on a daily basis is on autopilot - it’s the unconscious part of the brain running the show. That’s pretty much a blend of all the patterning, programming, and conditioning that was created from an early age known as the ‘imprint period’ - most of who we are today was formed between 0-7 years of age.
This is great where it serves us (brushing our hair, cleaning our teeth, dressing, etc.) because we don’t have to think about it, we just kind of do it. Where it’s not as great are the bad habits, the limiting beliefs, the self-sabotage. For most of us, we've been doing them so long that they're wired into us! The good news is that our brains are malleable or have what’s known as ‘neuroplasticity’ - which means we can hardwire them for a different and better set of habits.
Goal setting can feel a little overwhelming, how can we start, and is there a “right” process that can set us up better for success?
It can definitely be overwhelming and if you haven’t had much success with it in the past it can also be quite scary.
I think the best thing you can do is to start small. Small habits done consistently will build great confidence. One of the other things to consider is that you have a motivation/willpower/mental fatigue tank. You start with a full tank in the morning and it empties throughout the day. So if you are looking to create a habit - and maybe one that you are struggling with - it’s best to implement it first thing in the morning. The longer you leave it the harder it will be to get it done and stay consistent with it!
Shortfalls are all part of the journey, but how can we bounce back from them?
It starts with making the choice. You can either turn your pain (shortfalls) into passion and purpose or a pity party. If you look at those that have done great things in the world, most of them have hit rock bottom at some stage AND they used that pain as their fuel for the fire. It’s never about what has happened to you and always about how you respond.
What kinds of self-sabotage do you most commonly see and what are some ways we can combat them?
Financial success, food, relationships, weight, and the way to combat them is firstly to have a level of awareness and understand where they stem from.
Let me give you an example for financial success. If your parents told you that money is the root of all evil, that people with money are greedy, that money doesn’t grow on trees, etc. then there is a good chance that you could be sabotaging yourself in some way. What you need to first understand is that your brain is always looking out for the best for you (I know, at times it’s hard to believe!) and sometimes that means self-sabotage. So if you believe that money is the root of all evil, your brain is likely thinking “I don’t want you to be evil, so I’m going to find a way to sabotage your financial success’.
It happens more than people realise…!
How can we begin to heal from the past in a way that will allow us to move forward?
There needs to be a level of awareness and compassion. Awareness of what parts of you need to be healed and compassion for yourself and others that you may have to heal from.
From there you can either use tools that you do yourself (breath work, meditation, journaling, emotional freedom techniques) or seek out a coach of some sort to help you process things.
One of the things many of us do is deal with things on a ‘physical’ level - through massage, physio, chiro, osteo, etc. What we fail to consider is the fact that we have 5 ‘bodies’. The physical (that I mentioned), mental, energetic, emotional, and spiritual. Often when we are healing and we only address the physical, we don’t heal the problem properly because it hasn’t been addressed on the other ‘bodies’.
How do you stay motivated when you’re reaching for your own personal goals?
You don’t ;)
If you are relying on motivation alone you are going to be in big trouble. Motivation will come and go so if you want to stay on track here are a few things to consider.
- You won’t always feel like it. I love training - but I don’t always feel like it. If I’m training 8 times a week - 5 will feel really good, 2 will feel ok and 1 might feel like a shocker. But that doesn’t mean it’s wrong! If you are feeling that way don’t beat yourself up.
- Consistency is more important. Once you’ve established that habit and it’s wired into your DNA and brain you won’t necessarily have to try as hard, it will come more naturally.
- Know your ‘why’. When you have a strong reason why you are doing what you are doing you will be able to overcome any hurdle. If you don’t, you’re much more likely to let things fall by the wayside.
- Be accountable to someone other than yourself. It’s easy to fall off the bandwagon when you are just accountable to yourself. You’re a lot more likely to stay on track when you are accountable to someone else.
Leave us with some final words of advice...
You are capable of so much more than you realise. When you truly get your head around the power of the mind and start to change it in a way that serves you, your world will change fast.